In search of happiness and fulfillment, more and more people aspire to change. Changing lives to live more serenely has become a common fantasy shared by ordinary people. However, taking a 180 ° turn to accelerate one’s life cannot be improvised overnight.
It will take steps to finally hope to live the life you want, both personally and professionally. So between the dream of a better life and the reality that you live today, it’s up to you to transform your everyday life by simply doing it. Also, to put all the chances on his side, the only watchword is anticipation. Discover in this file how to anticipate, prepare and access the change of life.
Step 1: take stock of his motivations
Once you feel a need or desire to improve your life, the first thing you need to do is take stock of your main sources of motivation. You must then take stock of the different essential aspects of your life, namely health, money, work, love, etc. The idea here is to become aware of the origin of your dissatisfaction.
Understanding where and how you have lost control of your life is essential so that you can realize what new life you are aspiring to today. No matter what your age, sentimental or professional situation, take a step back and decipher in your own way this feeling of completely missing out on life. It is clear that choosing to change one’s life, starting from scratch is the most difficult decision for an individual.
Step 2: ask the right questions
To achieve a new beginning and change of life, a moment of reflection is needed. In spite of your determination and your will to improve your life, it is necessary to make clear to you that the change is not easy, that it is not without risk for you as for your entourage.
Also, to test and boost your motivation, ask yourself how far you are willing to go to change your life. You now have a concrete idea of the new life you want to live in, but have you planned for a Plan B in the event that your move is unsuccessful along the way? In the same way, what are the risks related to this possible change, for you as well as for your loved ones?
Step 3: identify the obstacles to its evolution
By going through this phase of reflection, you enter a phase of awareness, essential to really trigger the click that will push you to act in your change. If you are at a stage in your life where everything comes down to dissatisfaction, you must identify all the internal and external factors that are holding back your evolution.
Most often, we reproach our entourage, our spouse, our professional environment to prevent us from fully flourishing. However, it must be understood that you are the first person responsible for your situation. Look for the brakes you impose on yourself, such as the fear of others’ judgment, the fear of failure, your inability to let go of your past, your fear of the unknown …
Step 4: make a tailor-made action plan
Now that you are beginning to understand why you have so much trouble moving forward in your life, you need to craft an action plan based on your new expectations in life. The goal here is to start from your real needs and desires and to chart a path that can lead you to personal fulfillment.
In other words, you must take actions that meet your new goals. It is clear that your ultimate goal is to live happier and happier, but the important thing is to make changes in the different aspects of your life in which you feel the most dissatisfaction. Whether from the professional or sentimental point of view, develop an approach allowing you to evolve in this direction.
Step 5: Focus on your well-being
To achieve your life-changing goal, you must focus on your well-being. Think of everything you can, if not do, to feel better about yourself. Your well-being begins first with your ability to take care of yourself. Feel free to indulge yourself, essential to boost your motivation for change.
Changing your life also means changing your mentality. You must change the way you see the future, life in general. Do things for yourself and not to please others, whether you are a loved one, your romantic partner, or your supervisor at work. The bottom line is that you can feel good about your sneakers, no matter what the situation or the difficulties you are going to face.
Step 6: Learn how to simplify life
To improve your daily life, you must review your habits. It is actually by changing your habits that you will be able to improve your life. The best thing to do in this case is to learn how to simplify your life. Do not look for perfection, because it is in simplicity, in small simple pleasures of life that you will be able to find your happiness.
So clean up your life, essential to detach you from all these superfluous things that can alter your vision of happiness. Whether in terms of material or relationship, do you say that some things you thought necessary until today are more of a hindrance to your evolution than anything else? Just ask yourself what you really need today to regain control of your life.
Step 7: Work to restore self-esteem
More often than not, a person has a hard time finding happiness even though she already has in her life everything she needs to be happy. The problem is then in her self-esteem, a lack of confidence making her doubt her skills and ability to lead the life she has always dreamed of. In other words, to change your life you have to work to regain your self-esteem.
The best way to do this is to make a list of his accomplishments in life. Being a graduate, having started a family, holding a position of responsibility in a company …, this exercise allows you to realize for yourself what are your strengths, your real potentials in life.
Step 8: relativize the eyes of others and live with criticism
To gain self-esteem and regain self-confidence, you must also live with criticism. Self-criticism will be your best ally to succeed in your change process. Take a tour of your failures and become aware of your own mistakes. Only then can you grow and aspire to the evolution that you covet so much.
Also, learn to relativize the eyes of others. Do not focus on the judgment others may have of you. Be your own judge, indispensable to enable you to make the right decisions in your life. Concretely, you are the only master of your well-being and your happiness. Accept criticism so that it is more constructive than destructive.
Step 9: Face his fears
Once you know where you are coming from and where you want to go, it will be easier for you to face your fears. These are the last ones that prevent you from evolving and moving forward. To change your life, you must understand that you have to get out of your comfort zone, otherwise no change could occur in your daily life.
Your job prevents you from blossoming as an individual, so do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to access a more fulfilling job. Dealing with your fears is a crucial step in your change process, as it allows you to discover your own limits. Knowing your limits then allows you to learn to overcome yourself, a surpassing of oneself to the key of your fulfillment.
Step 10: Your failures, your source of learning
Finally, know that to be happy, you will have to learn. Your main source of learning will then be your failures. A love disappointment like the loss of a job is so many failures that anyone can know at least once in their life.
Also, check out your biggest defeats and take a step back from the possible mistakes that led you to these failures. The important thing is that you keep in mind that it is these failures that help to better understand your weaknesses and thus help you to improve every day and that in the different aspects of your life. To learn is to evolve, and only evolution guarantees you change.